Your Marriage Can Work Episode 2: THE WEDDING DAY

Your Marriage Can Work

Episode 2

THE WEDDING DAY.

Genesis 2: 21 - 25. (NLT)

"21 So the Lord God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep. While the man slept, the Lord God took out one of the man’s ribs and closed up the opening. 22. Then the lord God made a woman from the rib, and he brought her to the man. 23. “At last!” the man exclaimed. “This one is bone from my bone, and flesh from my flesh! She will be called ‘woman,’ because she was taken from ‘man.’” 24. This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one. 25. Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame."

A Wonderful and blessed day to you and your spouse. I believe your garden is flourishing with the blessings of the Lord, Amen.

This week one "Your Marriage Can Work", we shall be discussing the beginning of marriage, what transpired that day. What does that day really mean and what should it be in our homes? Before that we need to see how it all began from the Bible, when God created Man and Woman.

When God created Adam, He went further to make a likeness of him from his ribs and Adam called her "A Woman" because she was taken from me. The scripture went ahead and said, 

"24. This explains why a man leaves his father and mother and is joined to his wife, and the two are united into one."

To break this down, as a man, you have to be separated from your parents to become a new parent with your wife. You are to start a new home outside your parents by taking a woman from her parents to build a new parent together. You know, most couples get married today, (men and women alike) and are yet to be separated from their parents. They behave as if they are still with their parents. Everything happening in their marriage is what their parents opened up. Some went to the level of taking permission from their parents before making decisions in their home and these have broken their home. As a man you don't get married and still return to your parents house for decisions in your home. As a woman, your parents’ responsibility has been shifted to you & your husband. This takes me to what happens on the wedding day.

On the wedding day, (if you had yours in the church), the Clergy asks the father of the bride to bring the bride forward, and hands the bride over to him, while he then hands her to the groom who becomes her husband and a new home is birthed. This is what happens then, The bride's Father hands over all of his responsibility, as a father, to the Pastor, who stands as God, meaning, Lord, you gave me to nurture and I have nurtured this lady, I hereby hand her over to you back. Then, the Pastor who stands as God hands over the fatherly responsibility to the man, which means, you are the Father of this woman. Maritally, you become her father while biologically she belongs to her father. Wedding day is a responsibility shifting day from Fatherhood (biological father) to fatherhood (Marital father). You care for her, she becomes your responsibility as a man and you must love her as her biological father loved her, the reason for Ephesians 5:25. 

On the other hand, to the bride, the new wife in town, you are to respect that new father of yours as your biological father, you are transferring the respect and submission you have for him to the new father you have now. Your contribution to your biological father not to tarnish his name now becomes your contribution to this new father you have, which is what Ephesian 5:22 says.

A new home is created, the man has responsibility to his new wife in order to create a new home. You're not supposed to return to either parents for any reason except celebration or important reason. Let me say this clearly, their rules shouldn't guide your house except the rules that you both agreed on. Your mother or father are not supposed to determine what happens in your home that is the reason for 

"... and the two are united into one."

You are one and not two, you don't belong to those parents of yours like before, they've done their best in your life, they've trained you to be able to raise your home so stop disturbing them and build your home with your spouse.

"25. Now the man and his wife were both naked, but they felt no shame."

There should be openness not to your parents but between the two of you. You should be naked to one another in order to build trust and confidence. These may look small but it's a big secret destroying many homes today, where parents determine what happens in their children's homes. 

Parents, it is time to let your child build their home and not you setting the blocks for them. Every marriage can work when you get the principles right and work with it. It's not too late to do the needful, just apply the principles and the product will come out fine. God bless you.

See you in our next edition.

Joy & Emmanuel Oluboye